Parenting and The Institute of Child Psychology and The Gottman Institute
“Much of today’s popular advice to parents ignores emotion” says Dr. Gottman. “Instead it relies on child-rearing theories that address children’s misbehaviour, but disregards the feelings that underlie that misbehaviour. The ultimate goal of raising children should not be simply to have an obedient and compliant child. Most parents hope for much more for their children.” Gottman’s research also discovered that love by itself wasn’t enough. “We found that concerned, warm, and involved parents often had attitudes toward their and their children’s emotions that got in the way … when the child was sad or afraid or angry,” he writes. “The secret to being an emotionally intelligent parent lay in how parents interacted with their children when emotions ran hot.” "The researchers ultimately determined that successful parents tended to do five very simple things with their children when they were emotional. Gottman calls these five elements “Emotion Coa...