TRUE ♾️ NATURE

Dr. Gordon Neufeld discusses the way our capacity for relationship is meant to develop and why this development is so necessary. Each of the six phases of attachment create a new way to connect to a range of people (from birth parents to life partners and your own children and everyone in between ... ).  For me, this wonderful in depth seminar really warms up around the 1 hour 5 minute mark and continues so until the awesome summary.  Skip there if time is short and you are busy...  If not, grab a coffee, get comfy and listen.  The life long extensive attachment research that Dr Neufeld generously shares in this broad ranging talk is simply fascinating. Or is that just me...? Relationship Nerd Alert... So happy to Be that too.  Especially the juicy bits on "premature digital intimacy"... made enormous sense in this "permanent part time attention" era of the fractious digital age. AKA lack of presence ... lack of consciousness... lack of depth and awareness... la...

3 Responses to 12 NARM Questions as answered by Iris McAlpin  Read the full original article here    More information about NARM as developed by Dr. Laurence Heller over the course of his 45 year clinical career is available from the NARM site  here.   Or watch the introductory video below.   "The best thing you can do for your kids  is do your own work"  IRIS MCALPIN.  Question 8   What can we do to ensure that we don’t traumatize our own children the way we were traumatized, especially since that’s the template we know? I know people don’t like to hear this, but even the most well intentioned parents in the world will likely do or say something (or not do or say something) that leaves a traumatic wound. That does not make you a bad parent, it makes you human. The best thing you can do for your kids is to do your own work. See a therapist , coach or other trained mental health professional. Get support. Do what you can to fo...

One of the most effective strategies for regulating emotion is this: cultivate an attitude of acceptance towards your emotions and the emotions of others. Practice saying ‘yes’ to your emotions, your children’s emotions, your partner’s emotions, and your friends’ emotions and notice how, not only your relationship with emotions changes, but also your relationships with people. When it comes to emotions, what we resist persists. By accepting our emotions, and the emotions of others, we give emotions space to move, to come and go, to rise and fall. Our own experience with emotions tells us that no emotion lasts forever, but when we resist and struggle against our emotional experience, we are more likely to get stuck in our feelings. We can’t push our emotions away (at least not for long), and we can’t push our children’s or partner’s emotions away either. When we are open to the full range of our own emotions, it becomes easier to open to other’s emotions, and this emotional openness pro...

“The change must begin with the human being, not with the outward structure. The human being is confused, the human being is conditioned. He believes, and therefore there is a contradiction in himself. He is really, deeply confused and if he wants to change the social structure, the change from confusion only breeds more confusion. Whereas, if he could bring about clarity within himself, and from that clarity act, then such an action is really a deep psychological revolution. That revolution is absolutely necessary..” - J.Krishnamurti To understand the problems of the world, one must first understand oneself, not in self-enclosing comprehension but through that disinterested and kindly awareness of oneself. Self-knowledge is the beginning of right thinking, which is the true beginning of meditation. — Krishnamurti (@K__Quotes) June 26, 2021 Hate, grief, and possessiveness prevent the comprehension and experience of timelessness. In transcending hate, resentment, and anger, there is th...

"As our conception of consciousness expands  to include what was once unconscious,  a greater awareness develops that embraces others,  the natural world and the cosmos,  while potentiating opening to primordial awareness."  "The manifestation of the imaginal may allow one to reclaim their authenticity, and to open to the truth of nondual awareness,  or simply the inclusion of the imaginal in one’s everyday practice will assist with one’s growth and illumination." Dr. Julie Brown Yau  Biography "I have a 33-year background in psychological, somatic, and spiritual traditions, which provides a unique depth of knowledge and experience. Born from a fascination of what lies below our conscious awareness, and how trauma shapes our lives, I gained a PhD in somatic depth psychology, and master’s degrees in both spiritual psychology and depth psychology.   I specialize in developmental, inherited, and shock trauma, and have studied and taught with some of ...

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"As the computer and the robot are taking over the activities of thought we have only these two choices: either pursuing pleasure, entertainment, or entering into the whole psychological world and see how far, how deeply one can go into it.   So, if we can take the journey together, we will walk together into the world which are the senses, sensory perceptions, desire, will, fear, pleasure, sorrow, that is the psychological world in which we live, and together let us explore it and find out how deeply, and how far we can go into it.   That is the only choice you have.   Please realise this, either entertainment of various kinds or this entering into the psychological world which is the whole movement inwardly projected by thought, the 'me', my desires, my pursuits, my ambition, the competition, the vanity, the hypocrisy, the habits we fall into, sexual, drink, various kinds of habits, all that is the psychological world in which we live and without understanding that you ...