Genuine love is not always about being in union.
It’s also being willing to say,
'“I see what you need and want to be happy and you deserve that. If I’m honest, I’m not in a position to be able to provide for you in that. And I care enough to acknowledge this.”
That’s also love.
Having the capacity to hold space for someone to grow into the version of themselves that can meet you where you are should always come with great discernment.
There is a difference between holding space and settling or compromising your non-negotiable needs because of potential.
Recognizing the reasons why you and someone else may not be in union is so much simpler when you see that it’s not always about blame or fault.
It’s not always because someone didn’t care enough. And remembering that in or out of union is an opportunity to learn yourself better. |