Basic. Instinct. Better. Intellect. Best. Intuition.
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Callow youth,
driven by hormones and instinct
is a basic animalistic survival mechanism.
It is how many young people mutually meet the person they,
by accident or intentional choice,
pro create with.
Boy sees and meets girl,
It is how many young people mutually meet the person they,
by accident or intentional choice,
pro create with.
Boy sees and meets girl,
girl sees and meets boy.
Boy in Nighclub, Girl in pub,
Meet at work,
Boy in Nighclub, Girl in pub,
Meet at work,
On holiday
On the dance floor
Off their tits, drunk,
borrow a cup of sugar from a neighbour,
browse tinder
borrow a cup of sugar from a neighbour,
browse tinder
on line and intentionally hunting
for a hook up or directly looking for a mate.
Why?
Why?
Ask your self why?
The answer does NOT really matter.
Someone compatible to share time with. Awesome!
The answer does NOT really matter.
Someone compatible to share time with. Awesome!
Someone you THINK you fall in love with…
Superficial
Reasons attached
Superficial basic instinct attached
Lust attached
All ok, all included in one benign universe!
Then once hooked up,
once secure, once “for love fallen”
Then what?
Get on with it…
Share bills, share rent, share mortgage, share dates, share domestic chores, share child rearing, share sex, share time, share fun and joy, share holidays. Share gardening, share whatever. Just keep those dis Intgrated egos “happy”
A few shared dates, sex, 20 more questions, sex, lovey dovey, a shared weekend away, peel back the surface layers, sex shared, off to work, hit the sack, share more Lust, sad, mad glad, shifting moods fluctuating hormones, more or less sex, more or less fun, now settling into a regular "partnership", meet and share friends, meet and share family, obviously mostly satisfied ego to mostly satisfied ego. Excellent! A perfect match... or not?
What comes next? Routine? Ruts? More Romance?
Share bills, share rent, share mortgage, share dates, share domestic chores, share child rearing, share sex, share time, share fun and joy, share holidays. Share gardening, share whatever. Just keep those dis Intgrated egos “happy”
A few shared dates, sex, 20 more questions, sex, lovey dovey, a shared weekend away, peel back the surface layers, sex shared, off to work, hit the sack, share more Lust, sad, mad glad, shifting moods fluctuating hormones, more or less sex, more or less fun, now settling into a regular "partnership", meet and share friends, meet and share family, obviously mostly satisfied ego to mostly satisfied ego. Excellent! A perfect match... or not?
What comes next? Routine? Ruts? More Romance?
More fun and joy? More Conflict? Obnoxious Habits?
Deeper allowance and Acceptance?
Deeper Lost in living?
Taking the other now for granted?
Unhappiness comes UP more regularly now as a settled reality dawns?
Trapped, feral energy?
Static, staid, strict routines?
Unhappiness comes UP more regularly now as a settled reality dawns?
Trapped, feral energy?
Static, staid, strict routines?
The blame game may start?
The avoidance? Conflict resolution?
Communication over values and priorities?
The excesses more excessively?
Drinking, drugs, anxiety, depression, withdrawal of intimacy (not just sex)
Starting to NOT feel accepted, fully seen and fully heard?
Options now? Meet the issues head on? Communicate intentionally?
Set aside an intentional time for a mutual intentional communication?
wider, broader, deeper, a growth focused higher consciousness to ask better questions?
"How is your heart?",
check in more consciously and regularly, not just when 'problems" or issues arise,
do NOT assume, do NOT look through myopic limiting lenses,
remain curious listen receive, IT IS always the little things,
NOT just when BIGGER obvious "issues" may arise? ,
do NOT assume, be direct and deliberate and always kind NOT right.
Listen, receive, listen receive, remain open and curious, hear each other out, mutual respect and mutual aligned energy, do not force, do not by pass, do not default to laughter TOO early, also DO NOT TAKE YOUR TRUE NATURE too seriously... light hearted EVEN on heavy topics. Light hearted JOY and Laugh forever with someone YOU take seriously. Never BE blunt or harsh or cutting or make excuses. And never be an unkind asshole. Apologise quickly, NO excuses attached. Don't be a door mat either. Sorry, NOT sorry but...
Why have YOU changed? (projecting)
Why am I no longer happy? What am I bringing to The Table? (honest reflection)
Why does this "relationship" no longer feel the same?
Is there Growth? AS a human? As a couple? There supporting each other?
But NOT taking on their shit as yours to fix or heal or own or even advise?
Simply be aware and communicate NON violently.
If they seek or need or want your input they will do so.
Maturity is trusting another, supporting another, NOT taking crap outside your basic core values, call your true self out, call them out gently, NOT blaming, NOT shaming, NOT critical BUT from love NOT for love.
Not trying to manipulate or control or contest or compete.
Let them show up exactly as they already are.
Ethical, aligned, integral, whole, imperfect, messy and humanely authentic.
All light heartedly, no bimbo, no by pass, no disregarding, no ignoring, no assuming, no expectiong, have standards for sure BUT not unspoken mind reading, no dominating, no one sided my way or not mansplaining, no bitter biting behind the back bitchiness, no taking for granted, be grateful, be receptive, lead and be assertively responsive, lead and have purpose, lead and show through consistent actions, heart to heart connected NOT mind staid stuck labelled attached, and certainaly No "thinking" you know from past performances. Do your best, BUT sometimes your best is not very good, so level up, do better and when you know better, BE better. Do not regress and do not need constant reminders. Pay attention, be astonished, share your insights and observations. Remain curious, remain in awe. remain open and potent and NOT attached to basic instincts. Intellect NOW matters more, as Does intuition.
and what is "intuition"? higher order consciousness. Subtle, nuanced, insight, grace, listening, consciousness, observing, shared silenece, shared solitude, shared time DOING absolutely NOTHING together, just BEING. Lighten UP, freshen UP, rise UP. Intuition, HOT
higher order thinking = HOT
critical deeper UNATTACHED thinking = HOT
discernment = HOT
standards = HOT
style = HOT
elegance = HOT
strength of character = HOT
boundaries = HOT
no people pleasing = HOT
no perfectionism = HOT
no procrastination = HOT
no counterfeit empathy = HOT
no pissed drunken drug addled insecure by pass unkind assholery = HOT
Why so serious? Unless it is... = HOT
Joy = HOT
Higher Order Unattached Thinking = HOT
so simply Be HOT
mind unattached FULLY heart connected.
simple common ordinary everywhere = grounded gracious whole absolute consciousness = HOT
Are you BOTH becoming BETTER people (HOT) or are you BOTH stagnating?
are your basic core needs still being met because you are speaking up?
Or unreceptive,
NOT listening, not communicating,
checked out, wasted, spiritual by passing,
Drinking, drugs, anxiety, depression, withdrawal of intimacy (not just sex)
Starting to NOT feel accepted, fully seen and fully heard?
Options now? Meet the issues head on? Communicate intentionally?
Set aside an intentional time for a mutual intentional communication?
wider, broader, deeper, a growth focused higher consciousness to ask better questions?
"How is your heart?",
check in more consciously and regularly, not just when 'problems" or issues arise,
do NOT assume, do NOT look through myopic limiting lenses,
remain curious listen receive, IT IS always the little things,
NOT just when BIGGER obvious "issues" may arise? ,
do NOT assume, be direct and deliberate and always kind NOT right.
Listen, receive, listen receive, remain open and curious, hear each other out, mutual respect and mutual aligned energy, do not force, do not by pass, do not default to laughter TOO early, also DO NOT TAKE YOUR TRUE NATURE too seriously... light hearted EVEN on heavy topics. Light hearted JOY and Laugh forever with someone YOU take seriously. Never BE blunt or harsh or cutting or make excuses. And never be an unkind asshole. Apologise quickly, NO excuses attached. Don't be a door mat either. Sorry, NOT sorry but...
Why have YOU changed? (projecting)
Why am I no longer happy? What am I bringing to The Table? (honest reflection)
Why does this "relationship" no longer feel the same?
Is there Growth? AS a human? As a couple? There supporting each other?
But NOT taking on their shit as yours to fix or heal or own or even advise?
Simply be aware and communicate NON violently.
If they seek or need or want your input they will do so.
Maturity is trusting another, supporting another, NOT taking crap outside your basic core values, call your true self out, call them out gently, NOT blaming, NOT shaming, NOT critical BUT from love NOT for love.
Not trying to manipulate or control or contest or compete.
Let them show up exactly as they already are.
Ethical, aligned, integral, whole, imperfect, messy and humanely authentic.
All light heartedly, no bimbo, no by pass, no disregarding, no ignoring, no assuming, no expectiong, have standards for sure BUT not unspoken mind reading, no dominating, no one sided my way or not mansplaining, no bitter biting behind the back bitchiness, no taking for granted, be grateful, be receptive, lead and be assertively responsive, lead and have purpose, lead and show through consistent actions, heart to heart connected NOT mind staid stuck labelled attached, and certainaly No "thinking" you know from past performances. Do your best, BUT sometimes your best is not very good, so level up, do better and when you know better, BE better. Do not regress and do not need constant reminders. Pay attention, be astonished, share your insights and observations. Remain curious, remain in awe. remain open and potent and NOT attached to basic instincts. Intellect NOW matters more, as Does intuition.
and what is "intuition"? higher order consciousness. Subtle, nuanced, insight, grace, listening, consciousness, observing, shared silenece, shared solitude, shared time DOING absolutely NOTHING together, just BEING. Lighten UP, freshen UP, rise UP. Intuition, HOT
higher order thinking = HOT
critical deeper UNATTACHED thinking = HOT
discernment = HOT
standards = HOT
style = HOT
elegance = HOT
strength of character = HOT
boundaries = HOT
no people pleasing = HOT
no perfectionism = HOT
no procrastination = HOT
no counterfeit empathy = HOT
no pissed drunken drug addled insecure by pass unkind assholery = HOT
Why so serious? Unless it is... = HOT
Joy = HOT
Higher Order Unattached Thinking = HOT
so simply Be HOT
mind unattached FULLY heart connected.
simple common ordinary everywhere = grounded gracious whole absolute consciousness = HOT
Are you BOTH becoming BETTER people (HOT) or are you BOTH stagnating?
are your basic core needs still being met because you are speaking up?
Or unreceptive,
NOT listening, not communicating,
checked out, wasted, spiritual by passing,
blaming, shaming, controlling, contesting, limiting, projecting?
Survival of The Species. Basic Instinct.
Survival of The Species. Basic Instinct.
Are you still stuck at age 15? when you first hooked up?
or are you NOW
leading with a far more
deeply nuanced,
sensually subtle and
refined HOT intellect and
HOT intuition?
Sure basic instinct is fun for a while at the beginning
as a relationship deepens and grows and matures
basic instinct is usually NOT enough
Sure basic instinct is fun for a while at the beginning
as a relationship deepens and grows and matures
basic instinct is usually NOT enough
to remain basic and instinctual becomes boring and beige.
No longer a callow shallow narrow myopic stuck staid boring beige
Level up the relating NOW with
Level up the relating NOW with
UNATTACHED intellect and
CONNECTED intuition.
Are YOU really being a better human, kind?
And Only YOU,
your own now wholly exposed and realised TRUE NATURE
can feel that.
all wisely strongly and focused
Within.
can feel that.
all wisely strongly and focused
Within.
who am "i" really?
drop all that you are not, the basic boring adolescent instinct and level up
to a far deeper joy of intellect and intuition
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